How to Say No Once You've Already Said Yes
Once you have sex with your BF, can you still tell him no? Of course!
yesno.jpgAt some point, every virgin faces the big "will you, won't you?" sex question, but once you've gone all the way, does the question go away? No.
Once you've had sex with a guy, it does not mean you have to do it every time you see him -- in fact, telling him you want to wait before the second time is a good way to find out if he's really into you. Any guy who's worth your time will be more interested in getting into your heart than your pants. If sex is the most important thing in your relationship, perhaps it's not the best match for you. The "virgin decision" is not the only decision you make when it comes to sex -- it's a decision you make each time you do or don't.
Then there are times when you've already said yes in the heat of the moment (or in response to pressure) -- but you change your mind. Is it still okay to say no when you're in the middle of yes? Yes.
Your body is yours and you can deny access at any time. No matter how mad he might get, if you're no longer into it, it's your right to end it. But, try to avoid it, indecisiveness comes off as game playing.
Bottom line: You are never obligated to be intimate with your guy, even if you've already slept with him. And you can always change your mind, no matter how far beyond kissing the makeout session has gone.
Saying no is always okay. And if you do say yes, make sure you play safe.
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MY REPLY (which wasn't approved by Tyrashow.com):
*Once again, the ladies MAY NOT LIKE MY ANSWER. BUT FLYNESS KEEPS IT REAL!*
What this article ignores, is the fact that it gives women permission to ACT IRRESPONSIBLY. Ladies, it is totally irresponsible to lay down with someone and decide "in the middle" that you no longer want to have sex with him. While you are protected under the law at every step of the way and have EVERY legal right to say no, at ANY time...it is utterly reckless and irresponsible.
Women, I totally get that you are emotional creatures. I understand that you may have a head and heart full of FEELINGS and EMOTIONS and stuff. I FEEL you. But damn, way before the blouse comes off and the skirt comes up, you need to have boundaries set. Take control and be straightforward with your men. If you have no direction, you will get lost--GUARANTEED.
If you want to just feel happy and carefree, then ignore my post. Go back to unrealistic, chatter. But when you're ready to wake up and be REAL, take heed to FLYNESS.
Peace
Flyness
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(and yea I wrote some books too: http://www.MySpaceToMyPlace.com )
