Flyness' TEN RULES for a one night stand!

Thanks to "The Fly Girl" of http://www.urbannewzradio.com for the inspiration.
There are some things any and EVER man and woman should take heed of before going the "one night stand" route. Here are the OFFICIAL rules by Flyness.

1. It must take place AFTER 10:00PM – the number of things you can do in most cities DRASTICALLY decreases after 10PM. Except for…  You know…
2. No kissing on the lips
3. No GIVING head (generally speaking, the one who wants it the most gives head)
4. Not that I ever have unprotected relations…but ALWAYS keep a hat on
5. Limited pre-booty foreplay
6. No post-booty cuddling
7. For the ladies—no disclaimers, like “I usually don’t do this”. Guys don’t care.
8. No expectation of going all out trying to please the other person…I kicked it with a female not too long ago who had a NERVE to get mad that I didn’t “keep going” after I came. It was 25 minutes of good sex…I was like “NOT my problem”.
9. NO spending the night (unless it was good)
10. No using my shower afterwards…unless it was good


For more on Flyness' books, showing both men and women how to "upgrade their game", visit: http://www.MySpaceToMyPlace.com

Women who claim meeting people online ISN'T safe?

TOO MANY PEOPLE trick themselves into thinking that you are safer meeting people off the street than on the internet, which couldn't be further from the truth.

To the Ladies:
The truth is, you are not gambling with your life ANY MORE meeting someone online than when you meet someone on the street. In fact, you actually know MORE about the person you are hitting up online and have an easier time screening him out.



Here are a few online examples:

* You see him in pictures in various situations
* You see his taste and style from his page
* You see his educational level, income, occupation, and possibly his place of employment
* You see his comments ("these are your references")
* You see what kinds of people he considers "friends"


Vs. Meeting in the street

* You seem him at the present time (which may not be the real him)
* You see his taste and style (at the present time)
* You can guess, but have no idea what he does



Granted, anyone can doctor their look or even their page. However, one stands to learn more if they know what to look for. My book, From MySpace To My Place: The Ladies' Guide to Finding Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now is that guide.

The following article is further proof, illustrating my point. For those who hold misconceptions about meeting people online, take heed:

http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/news/150070/Bar-girl-bedded-200-men-after-surfing-web-for-sex-with-strangers.html

Letter from a PROMISCUOUS female (afraid of becoming a "Ho")

From time to time, I lace a young dude or female with some advice. However, THIS one seemed MUCH younger than 23. Check it out.

MESSAGE BOARD EMAIL, FROM A 23 YEAR OLD WOMAN:
i don't have much sexual experience at all. i had one boyfriend and the sex was always boring and uneventful. for the past couple years i've become so sexually repressed that i'm almost asexual.

there are times when i just want to experiment sexually but then i have this fear that the guy won't like my body or he might disrespect me. and then the reputation that women get for having casual sex is not something i want to endure

there is a guy i'm real interested in one of my classes and there is defintely sexual chemistry. a part of me wants to give him hints that i am down sexuallly but then i fear whta he might think of me if i do this. and i am scared i might start to like him and get hurt. i am confused

so what shdould I do? do you think every woman in her life should experiment sexually with men?

SHE ALSO WENT ON, TO POST:
another issue is that when i had sex with my ex boyfriend i would feel incredibly guilty, like it was very wrong because we weren't married. so i have become so sexually repressed that i feel so guilty about desiring casual sex with men




MY REPLY
From a male perspective--and a player at that...I'm going to give you "the real". This is going to be loooong so I know you'll enjoy it. (Sorry had to do it. LOL). Seriously, take heed. I'm not holding any punches, so please don't take anything too personal. And if you get NOTHING from this, go buy my "Ladies' Guide"....check the profile. ;)

I know you said you were 23 but you sound 17, very sexually inexperienced, and also a bit naive (as in lacking Street smarts). Honestly, babe, you sound like a "victim" and one that would get preyed upon by upperclassmen. Not to be funny, but you actually remind me of the type that would get trains run on her by the football team or the Ques. There were a few females on my college campus who came from a sheltered lifestyle, with little or no sexual experience who would just go "nuts" (literally) as soon as she got her taste of independence.

I'm agreeing with a lot of things that were said on this board so you need to take heed with a lot of whats being said. Sounds like there's some experience on here, so kudos to a lot of you.

First and foremost, you need to tackle the demons that you have about being comfortable with sex. In your posts I see a lot of contradictions. On one hand you want to explore your sexual side and experience different men, right? Cool. But then you talk about the guilt that comes with it:

* "another issue is that when i had sex with my ex boyfriend i would feel incredibly guilty, like it was very wrong because we weren't married. so i have become so sexually repressed that i feel so guilty about desiring casual sex with men"


That's a problem. How on earth can you be at peace with getting your 'nut on' if you're feeling guilty about it? As a human being, its normal for you to want to explore your options. It is actually biological. But it takes the fun out of it if you're worried all the time. On that note, you said you don't want to be perceived as a "ho", which is by definition, a person who has multiple partners outside of a commitment. But perception is perception...you need to either make peace with your freaky side, or suppress your desires. A great suggestion made earlier is to "spread it around" and take your show on the road. Do not do the easy thing and mess with multiple guys on campus. I don't care how big the school is. Brothas are going to immediately throw you in the "toss up" category. Word travels. If your agenda is "physical gratification" you need to be strategic on WHERE you get it from. I'm telling you...everyone at my school knew who got down. That happens everywhere when ladies decide to get too freaky with their schoolmates.

Here are some no-no's I can think of, off the bat:
-Do NOT mess with multiple guys on campus
-Do NOT be seen leaving a party (that you frequent) with another dude, unless you are in a group. The next time you go, people will know you as the late-night jumpoff
-Do NOT think you have to dress provocatively to attract men. (in fact, do you have a MySpace page? Send me the URL and I'll throw you some feedback)
-Stay away from high profile dudes on campus, especially Jocks and Greeks (if you only want sex)
-After sex, do NOT give him any disclaimers, e.g. "I don't normally do this" and "I don't want you to think I'm a ho."

Next, if you haven't already, take some time to get to know your body. Masturbate and purchase a toy or two to satisfy some of your urges and "take the edge off". In the meantime you need to pick your sex partners wisely. You can't just jump a dude because you want to see "how thick" he is--even if its only for sex. Since you're new to the idea of exploring yourself, you don't want to just acquire multiple sex partners. Start with ONE friends with benefits. Pick a dude who's low profile and doesn't hang around with gossipy men, jocks or Greeks. Once you get to know him, establish an understanding...one of "my ladies" actually proposed a "sex contract"; whenever she needed it, I had to deliver within a certain time and vice versa. That way you can be safer and still get your nut on. You don't want to start off banging multiple dudes out the gate, for SO many reasons. As you should already know, always bring protection with you (just in case) and insist that he wears a condom. Also, know your cycle and be cognizant of your fertility at all times. The best way to get your 'nut on' without caring about your image is to go on vacation and leave your state. Go to another part of the country during spring break and let loose. Chances are, you will never see "Mr. Strange D*ck" again, so that takes care of perception.


I actually talk about a lot of this in my book, "From MySpace to My Place: The Ladies' Guide to Finding Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now Online." Granted its centered around meeting men online, but its applicable offline as well. It includes ways to categorize men (what you should look for and what you should avoid), how to "take your show on the road" (if you're looking for 'Mr. Right Now') and general safety tips, such as being safe sexually and guarding your image. Not to market my sh*t in your face, but you could really benefit. Good luck babe and send me your link if you want any feedback.

LADIES, Stop asking how many woman a man has slept with!

Last night, I went out on a second "date" with someone. Very cool girl. However, she asked the infamous "So how many women have you slept with?" question. Granted she tends to pick my brain since I'm a relationship author (Check out www.myspacetomyplace.com)

But ladies, consider the following:
*Do you really expect men to be honest with you? (Afterall MOST women lie about their sexual partners)
*Would it matter if he said 948 partners and meant it?
*Do you really even want to know?

So in response to my date, I said "10,000" with a serious, but smug look. She hesitated, and stuttered, "You're not serious, are you?" I proceeded to tell her I was experienced, but at the end of the day, the NUMBER means nothing. And whether my number is 10, 100, 1,000 or 100,000, it really doesn't matter.


Guys, same thing...don't ever ask a woman this question. She'll give you a cute number like 3 or 4. Watever she gives you fellas, add a '0'. 4 = 40. 7=70, etc. Lol. Plus it makes you look insecure. Instead look at her mannerisms, her body language and other nonverbal queues. Thats all you really need to "guestimate" her experience. ;)

And if you want more game, check out my books at http://www.MySpaceToMyPlace.com. I've met hundreds of ladies online and made two informative guides--one for the men is out NOW! The LADIES Guide will be released in on TUES. Feb 10. 2009.

Guys who CHASE after Women...and the Women who use them :-\

I guess this is what makes the world go 'round, but its still a fascinating thing. FELLAS, stop chasing these females. When I say "chase", I mean running up to females and giving them pick up lines. It's so corny. Its even worse on MySpace. These picture comments are sickening. Here are a few I've seen before:

-Baby cum here and sit on my face!
-I would spend my entire paycheck on you!
-I'm so in love. I want to put it in!

Don't you realize it makes you look desperate? Weak? Insecure? And stop taking T-Pain's advice and buying these chicks drinks. If she likes you SHE should buy YOU the drink, take YOU home, "sex" you, AND make YOU breakfast. Be a man and not a simp.

Okay LADIES, calm down...you're not in the clear either. You already know that most men are like panting dogs waiting to get into your pants. That said, stop using them because it WILL bite you in the ass. As I state in my new book, "From MySpace to My Place: The Ladies' Guide to Finding Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, you ladies need to stop hanging out with men you aren't romantically (or sexually) interested in, for the sole purpose of attaining tangibles, UNLESS you clearly express that interest. It amazes me that a woman will accept drinks from a stranger all night, but has a NERVE to act upset when he proposes leaving the club to go back to his place. SHE KNOWS WHAT HE WANTED! Now ladies, ITS COOL to get your hustle on. We're in a recession. However, know the consequences.

I had a friends-with-benefits relationship with this one female who would borrow a guys car to come and see me. This was a guy who WORSHIPPED her and she used this dude for his money, his car and his attention. (But she only gave me the goods...aint that somethin?) However this female had a nerve to get upset once the dude took his keys back, once he realized he was being "had".

Fellas, stop putting the "cooch" on a pedestal. Watch for attraction signals. Read her "non-verbal" queues and act accordingly and laid back. And ladies, be real with yourselves. If you don't like a dude, have the courage to let him know. And if he STILL wants to shower you with gifts, THAT is GAME.

Flyness has spoken. ;)


And check out my books and my interviews, all on: http://www.MySpaceToMyPlace.com

Women - STOP FRONTIN on your "na-na"

Props to Dedan Tolbert at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/DedanTolbert
Tonight I guest co-hosted his show on Women who LIE about their sex lives. We talked about the SCORES of women who lie about the number of sex partners they have.

Ladies...be honest...How many times have you lied "on your na-na?" Secondly, I'm tired of the disclaimers. I've met over 200 women off myspace, and have taken MANY of them "to bed" within a day of my first IM. Why do I always get the, "I don't normally do this" speech or the "I'm not a ho, by the way" speech? If that were the case, there'd be no ho's on the planet earth.

Someone twitter me and shed some light on it.

My first Blog

Hey everyone,

This is my first blog. Thanks to "restlessmiss" for making me join to promote my books and talk about my experiences with meeting women online.


And boy, I've met MANY. Like, hundreds. And yes, I will finally be talking about these experiences. So stay tuned ;-)


As of this week, I am now the author of two, self-published books:

From MySpace to My Place: The Men's Guide to Snagging Women Online

and

From MySpace to My Place: The Ladies' Gudie to Finding Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now Online

The Men's Guide is doing quite well, and I am ranked #7 in the Self-Help eBooks category on Payloadz.com one of the leading digital content providers on the internet. The Ladies' Guide will be released on or before Valentines Day. Stay tuned for some interesting stories, tips, advice...and yes, stories. Especially the ones about getting women to my place within an hour of meeting them online ;-)